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 Relationship is a unity of opposites. Existing interdependence between people, attracted to each other side, there are also separate from each other, mutually exclusive side. When the interdependence of the dominant, the performance of interpersonal attraction to, when separated from each other when the dominant to the performance of interpersonal rejection. Exclusion of interpersonal relationships is harmful, and sometimes even interpersonal relationships will have a tremendous negative impact.

how to improve interpersonal communication it? First, removal of obstacles to establish a good variety of negative factors relationships. The adverse impact of interpersonal factors are:

(1) along the distance, above all, distance. In the same office, same occasion, the same activity circle, are susceptible to meet frequently,Discount UGG boots, contact, communication, and help each other and establish a good relationship, that friendship. The establishment of good relationships is the mutual attraction from both sides have accepted each other, find each other's thoughts, attitudes, interests, people skills and interest, which are their favorite places, so to continue contacts and communication, while continuing to further exchanges and communication of knowing each other, thus became Lu for treatment.

(2) a person's character, ability to influence the interpersonal relationships. People are envious of the fine, outstanding person capacity. Sincere, frank, helpful, modest, prudent, self-discipline, and lenient towards others who are attractive to the people; ability of the people, and has a sense of admiration of others, voluntarily establish a good relationship with him. Generally speaking, people tend to like smart people who have small defects, psychology, called this phenomenon Means that smart people are not ready made a small mistake, not only does not affect his benefits, but to suggest that he and the ordinary people, make mistakes, there are an ordinary side, people feel good acceptance, a sense of security.

(3) the establishment of close contacts and relationships, important condition is the mutual attraction from both sides. If one party against another passion, envy, while the other is the performance of indifference, contempt, it is impossible to establish good relationships. Lead to mutual attraction from both sides of both factors are similar and complementary.

In addition to similarities and complementarities can lead to mutual attraction from both sides, there is also a factor meter. A dignified manner and generous appearance, elegant and decent person conversation, giving the formation of the first impression is always good, that in itself is an attraction force, people willing to continue contacts and more from the good aspects of their words and deeds envisaged to explain. This will help both sides to establish good relationships.

(4) interpersonal perception refers to the relationship between people's awareness. It includes one's own knowledge with others, the relationship between knowledge and relationship with others for others cognitive. Perception of interpersonal relationships as the object of cognition. Good impression of interpersonal perception will promote good interpersonal relationships, maintenance and development; the contrary, the negative impression of interpersonal perception, the relationship for good establishment and maintenance of obstructive damaging.

Secondly, we should pay attention to the art of interpersonal communication.

(1) in relation to others to find common ground, find common ground. Interpersonal relationships and improve relations between the two sides must be built on common interests and needs, based on the interpersonal communication process needs to be clearly aware of each other, the resonance is to attract both adhesives. Of course, the joint is always a relative concept, each person's experience, mission, and different emotions, can not hold perfectionist fantasies. Have a general manner, should not care about, worry about the outcome.

(2) Knowing your enemy, friend, make the best use. Sun Tzu said: change the other's attitude, according to the case of the other design communication solutions, has intimate knowledge of the action.

However, the plan changes are difficult to predict. Spectacular modern society, fickle, a leader in the communication field to adapt to this rhythm, the other face of emergencies, to stabilize their emotions, quickly straighten out the various interests, to adjust the original plan, play down the tensions. The method can be used to divert attention, or yielded to seize the opportunity to make friends, friendship Quartet. When one's own disadvantage, be unruffled, frustration is not rude. More attentive to the loser, not snobbish.

(3) understand the mentality and grasp the emotions,Bailey UGG boots, focusing on communication. People often do not distinguish objects casting pearls before swine Ironically, outdated, absurd practice of blind action. In the communication field, should put an end to this folly.

communication is the exchange of emotions, is a human psychological phenomenon. Complex human relationships are often intertwined happiness and sadness when people in the make, bittersweet. Distress caused by a communication will affect the mood of another communication, resulting in inappropriate emotional expression, so that the target abortion. To avoid this situation, we must learn to control their emotions, state of mind in time for conversion, while the emotional impact out of each other, with a joke or a punch line to remove the unpleasant feeling.

interaction is to understand the bridge. Direct exchanges are exchanges, in particular the establishment of the most effective form of sense, even if the scores deep, through direct contacts to meet, but also to eliminate misunderstanding, the so-called In the face of every aspect of contact, both sides use the spoken, not mediators, can be more direct, convenient and concentrated to express their feelings,UGG shoes, so that mutual influence increased.

, of course, in interpersonal relationships,cheap UGG boots, it also should have the necessary skills. ① polite greeting, showing a courteous attitude. First encounter with people, something must be polite greeting, showing the attitude of courtesy. Always say ② always smiling. Smiling is a silent language, it shows a strength, decency and implied. Establish the image of a smile can play for a great effect. ③ dressed, the expression of personality. Impression of a person tend to come from his clothing. Wear can express the human personality. To make clothing at a glance, clothing and strive to clean, dignified and coordination, make a good impression at first sight. ④ remember each other's names. No matter what kind of situations are in, while others will be introduced to the other side you must immediately call out to remember and to each other's names, so that it can only show and his kindness. ⑤ Pay attention, with people, be good at listening to people talk, make each other feel your respect and interest, otherwise it is very impolite. ⑥ to maintain humility. Areas using humble tone anytime, anywhere to talk with people, this one in today's society has become the accepted unwritten rule. The leader of a humble words, in politics matter, the will be the benefits and convenience. ⑦ talk about some topics that anyone can understand. The first meeting with the guests, the topic should be made known to the beginning, so easy to get the other side of the resonance and response. ⑧ be measured words, avoid the use of mantra.

this way, it can improve interpersonal relationships, good relationships in order to use the service of development for the cause

how to handle interpersonal relationships, how to provide for others what they need things. Here are the 25 handle interpersonal methods secret, when we act in accordance with these rules, we will be able to increase his own wealth on the account relationship.

1. As to encourage others. You have to praise the achievements he?? Even a small success. Praised as the sun, without it we do not have the growth of nutrients. Your praise will never redundant.

2. you have to let other people at all times to retain face. Do not let anyone feel embarrassed, do not belittle others, not to exaggerate other people's mistakes.

3. the people that his only good things behind. If you can not find any good words, then you remain silent.

4. carefully observe others, so that you will find that he has done a good thing. When you express approval, you have to charge the reasons, so you will not be flattering praise too.

5. You should always refer to noble thoughts and motives to others. Everyone wants to be someone that is generous and selfless. If you want others to be improved, then you make as if he already has the appearance of such good quality. That he will do everything possible not disappointing.

6. You try not to criticize others, have criticized the time it's best to take an indirect way. You do not always human. You have to each other that you really like him are willing to help him. Do not you ever criticize others in writing.

7. sometimes you have to allow others to feel good about themselves. Do not brag, but to admit that they also have drawbacks. You have to be modest and prudent prudent. If you want to make enemies, you fight against other people everywhere. If you want friends, you will catch forgive and forget.

8. When you make a mistake, you apologize to time; when you want to blame, you better take the initiative to an abject apology.

9. you want more suggestions, not orders. Doing so, you can promote cooperation and avoid triggering conflict.

10. When people angry, you have to appreciate. Anger of others is often just to catch your attention. Enough to give you sympathy and concern to others?? They need them.

11. you have to talk as little as possible. Give you the opportunity to tell others, and their willing to do a good listener.

12. you want others to believe, the idea came from his own. Good idea do not care about their heirs, and everyone willing to believe in accordance with their wishes. The ocean is the king of streams, rivers because it can recruit.

13. you do not interrupt, even if the time when he was wrong. When he got something to do when the heart is not going to listen to you tell the patient.

14. you have to try to analyze from the standpoint of others things. Indians said: Understand all means to forgive everything.

15. Do not always right. You smarter than others, but you do not tell each other. Perhaps you want to admit he was wrong?? This avoids all the arguments.

16. often give away small gifts?? can not have any reason to find ways to make others happy. Energy spent on the gift that you spent on him mind.

17. in the event of conflict, you have to stay calm. The first thing you have to listen to each other, trying to find consensus between the two sides, you have to look at themselves critically, to consider his views to ensure that the other party, and the inspiration he gave his thanks.

18. you are truly interested in other people. You want this as their slogan: interested in other people, not themselves show interesting. You said he is thinking about ways to help each other.

19. keep smiling. Than those who did not smile on those who never need a smile.

20. We must always call each other's full name. This shows your respect for him. Everyone wants to hear his name, more than any one heard the name of the substitute are also allowed him happy. Of course, for this you have to try to remember each other's names.

21. you have to learn from the other perspective on things. You have to ask yourself: What is really needed? How can I let him profit?

22. You find a way to make yourself and everyone talking, including the phone, have a good feel for each other?? The first is his own, then your behavior, and finally is you.

23. to forgive others as soon as possible, do not bear grudges.

24. When you think of each other, to give him your best wishes!

25. bear in mind when calm, take a step backward!